Menene soyayya? Psychology: Jihar soyayya

Mutane suna ko da yaushe tambayar kansu wannan tambaya na abin da soyayya da kuma ko da shi za a iya bambanta daga gaskiya soyayya ne har yanzu nascent. Wannan batun ne musamman dacewa saboda yawan hauhawar adadin shika ga ma'aurata da yin aure a karo na farko, kuma reused. Abin da ya sa m saki da kuma ma'anar wannan cewa mu iyaye ƙaunar juna mafi? Bari mu bincika a wannan ɗaba'ar.

The sabon abu na soyayya

Psychologists sun ga dama shekaru karatu da kwatanta da mutum hankula, ko da yaushe zuwa ga ƙarasawa da cewa, jihar na soyayya ya ba mutum cikin impetus ga procreation. Kimiyance magana, ya zo a matsayin idan ta wani sihiri Wand ji an genetically m instinctual bangaren ma'abota. Me ya sa wannan magana? Amsar mai sauki. Man shi ne inherently kai-a tsakiya, da kuma soyayya ga wani lõkaci clouding da hankali, kyale ka ka gani your sweetheart kawai da halayen kirki. Mutane fuskantar asar, sai murna, shawo kansu cewa shi zai šauki har abada, ba su koyar da wani abu da wasu misalai na ma'aurata sakin bayan shekaru 2 da suke zaune tare.

Me ma'aurata karya up?

Amma, abin takaici, da jirgin ruwan, da ake kira "conjugal farin ciki" wajen sauri rushe a kan hanyar rayuwa da kuma na farko da wahala. Da farko soyayya sau da yawa take kaiwa zuwa farkon aure saboda gaskiyar cewa wani babban kaso na unplanned ciki. Saboda haka sananne sabon abu rikita batun tare da lokaci, ya aikata da "black" abu. Idan ma'aurata suna ba ganin da kara ci gaba da dangantakar, ya nemi ya bar, a cikin shakka daga shigar da "m manyan bindigogi" a fuskar iyaye da jama'a ra'ayi, kokarin hankalta sau daya a cikin soyayya da juna da kuma shawo kan mutane su ci gaba da rayuwa tare saboda yaron.

Almarar da ciwon timeframe

Nazarin dangantaka na ma'aurata, masana sun gano lokacin firam a wadda soyayya ta wanzu da kuma tasowa a da ganiya yanayin. 2 shekaru - sosai asar, sai murna yana jin tsakanin ma'aurata. Haka kuma, idan soyayya na maza ne cikakken Fit a da sanya lokaci, Ladies sami damar fuskanci wannan asar, sai murna kadan ya fi tsayi.

Bayan wannan lokaci, ma'aurata fara m jayayya, akwai wani rashin fahimta, mutane sauka ga juna batancinsu da zargin. Shi ne a wannan lokaci, mutane gane cewa da ji cewa su ne kuskure na soyayya ya wuce. A gaskiya, soyayya na da sharuddan, da kuma soyayya ba zai wuce ba.

Da dama tatsuniyoyinsu

Nazarin tambaya na abin da soyayya, mun gano cewa da ilhami na procreation mamaye mafi yawan jama'a. Soyayya iya bincika har abada, amma bai sami. Amma Jihar soyayya cewa zai iya maye gurbin darajar a hankali na mutum - mai kyau damar haifar da wani iyali.

Ma'aurata da suke iya ci gaba da iyali tare, wani babban kaso daga cikin dangantakar da ke goyan bayan waje tasiri. A wasu kalmomin, maza da mata sami sabon abubuwa na so da kuma a ɓõye canza ta rabin a gefe. Paradoxically, amma wannan shã'aninku da kuma rike da iyali da ninkaya. Har ila yau, mutane da yawa ma'aurata (da kuma a lokuta da dama tare da mu iyaye) zama tare da juna musamman ga yara. To, a cikin mafi tartsatsi bambance-bambancen da iyali a yanzu, to juna biyu yaro, kawai karya up.

Mene ne soyayya: yadda za a gane mai almarar?

Mun karya shi saukar. San cewa soyayya da jihar za ta taba zama wani kara kuzari ga bunkasuwar mutum, ya na sirri girma da kuma kai-kyautata. Wannan ji for karshe sakamakon daukan mallaki abu, wanda shi ne m. Duk abin mutumin da ya samu abin da ya so, yana ƙara gurin da kome ba. Har ila yau, masana ilimin tunani sun gano uku main ka'idojin, wanda za a iya bambanta daga soyayya da soyayya:

• Feeling taso a tunaninsu da lamirinsu matakin, spontaneously. Wani lokaci akwai wani ji cewa muna fada cikin soyayya da kõme a cikin wadannan mutane da ya dace da mu, "a daidai lokacin da a da ba daidai wuri." Wannan jiha ba za a iya kira wucin gadi, ya zo ba zato ba tsammani da za su iya bace kamar wani sabulu kumfa.
• Son Psychology m. Kamar yadda muka ce a baya, wannan ji ba tada a cikin mutane mafi inganci da ba ka so don canza kanmu ga mafi alhẽri, amma lalle ba ya horar da. Duk da abubuwan da suke faruwa a wannan lokacin, quite m da peculiar mana.
• A wannan jiha, mutane a nau'i-nau'i ne ba su da sha'awar a cikin sirri ci gaban da ta halves, sun kawai son sa ƙarshen ya Loneliness.

Maza, kuma, suna neman da hankula

Saboda haka, za mu gano cewa, irin wannan soyayya. Wani mai ban sha'awa shaida ne bambanci tsakanin maza da mata a cikin soyayya, kuma shi ne shi gaskiya ne cewa maza ne kawai sha'awar jima'i dangantaka a cikin abu na so. A gaskiya ma, maza ne kawai kamar yadda kula da motsin zuciya, kamar yadda m da kuma jiran shafa. Bambanci da aka bayyana ne kawai a cikin bayyanuwar su dangantaka.

Yadda fada cikin soyayya tare da wani mutum? Wannan yanayin ya sa da mutum sau da yawa rubuta, kira ya lady, yarda zuwa ranar, yin tsada sayayya, kula da kuma kula da ita. Wani mutum a soyayya ba rabuwa da nasa ya nufi bayan kiyawar da kawance, ya jarraba kamar yadda zai yiwu ka faranta wa so, sai ku ciyar lokaci, kawai rike da hannuwanku. Amma, kamar yadda muka samu daga, duk wannan za a iya halaka bayan wani lokaci bayan da burin da aka kai.

ƙarshe

Ba abin mamaki ba mutane sun ce soyayya - yana da aiki. Sai dai itace cewa da dama daga jama'a sages, kuma su tsare wata ma'ana fito, dole ne ka son ka zama mafi alhẽri, amai nasa son kai. Duk da haka, idan na biyu rabin bai nufin wannan, duk} o} arin zai zama a banza.